Tag: reflection

• The language of Overfunctioning

  I didn’t call it overfunctioning at first. I called it being responsible. Faithful. Capable. I was the one who noticed what needed to be done and quietly did it. I anticipated needs, filled gaps, smoothed edges, carried weight that wasn’t assigned to me—and told myself this was maturity. People relied on me. Things didn’t fall…

  debbiefelzien

  February 4, 2026

  Uncategorized

  childhood-trauma, healing, life, love, Mental health, mental-health, reflection, trauma, vulnerability

• Limerence and Longing

  I didn’t know the word limerence for most of my life.But I knew the feeling. Limerence is an intense emotional state marked by longing, idealization, and a deep desire for reciprocation—often from someone emotionally unavailable or inconsistent. It thrives on uncertainty. It feeds on hope. It confuses chemistry with connection and attachment with intimacy. And…

  debbiefelzien

  January 3, 2026

  relationships

  life, longing, love, mental-health, reflection, relationships, secure attachment, writing