Category: Grief

• History Doesn’t Pack Easily

  I woke up this morning aware of two competing truths before my feet even touched the floor. One was sacred.The other was unavoidable. Today marked our 28th wedding anniversary. That number landed on my chest with weight and familiarity, like a stone I’ve carried for decades—smoothed by time, but still heavy. I lay still for…

  debbiefelzien

  January 30, 2026

  Grief, Joy, relationships

  healing, letting-go, life, love, marriage, relationships

• a Gag Order on Grief

  “Grief is not asking for solutions—it is asking for room.” Grief doesn’t just wound the one who carries it. It unsettles everyone who comes near. When loss enters a room, it changes the temperature. Conversations become cautious. Eyes search for the “right” thing to say. And somewhere in that discomfort, an unspoken gag order slips…

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  December 28, 2025

  Grief

  faith, Grief, healing, Listening, loss, love, mental-health, presence

• When I miss the Mark

  There are days when my heart longs to stand out in this world — not for recognition or applause, but as an image bearer of Christ. I want my words, actions, and demeanor to reflect His grace, His kindness, and His steadfast love. I want people to catch a glimpse of Jesus when they cross…

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  November 7, 2025

  Grief

  bible, chaos, christianity, faith, god, healing, image bearer, jesus, Mess, relationships

• Through Weepy Eyes

  I didn’t see it coming. The blow that left me with the metaphorical wind sucked from my lungs. As I read through the accusations, the tears flowed like a dam that has just met capacity. A rush of emotions saturated every part of my body and landed with an incomprehensible weightiness. The depths of my…

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  July 3, 2024

  Grief, Suffering

  Judgement, Pain, Suffering